So, I've tried not to blog about this topic and for the most part, have been quite successful. I didn't want to sound like a broken record or for this to be a "Sex in the City-esque" blog but I should have known it was inevitable. This blog revolves around my thoughts about various topics that enter my mind and as a single girl in her 20's, it was going to come up sooner or later.
Why does it seem like most of the guys who want to date me need a manual or a guidebook? Newsflash, fellas - if you are interested in a girl and you get her number, CALL HER AND ASK HER OUT!!! Guy meets girl. Guy likes girl and wants to get to know her. Guy asks for girl's phone number. Guy asks girl to go out to dinner. Seems pretty simple, right? Well, you would be surprised how few men in this area actually get that. I feel like I need to clarify what a date is.
This message especially goes out to the overgrown frat boys - you know who you are in your flip flops, backwards baseball caps and Abercrombie t-shirt that is obviously too small....
A date, typically, involves dinner and/or drinks, maybe a movie or a walk or bowling or ice cream or going to a museum (if you live in a big city) or a concert. Think along those lines.
A date is NOT texting her to see if she wants to go to 1223 later that night, it is not a bar crawl in Bethesda and DO NOT under any circumstances ask her if she wants to come over to your filthy apartment and watch reruns of "Family Guy" on your ridiculously large and expensive flat screen/HD TV while you and your roommates roll up a joint and proceed to get stoned.
It seems like a lot of guys in their 20s are just re-living their college years but with the added benefit of a salary from a full time job. I almost feel like its an insult to my intelligence when someone wants to set me up with one of these goobers. Maybe 2 or 3 years ago, I would have swooned at the opportunity for one of these idiots to get my number. I surely would have eagerly waited around for him to call or text me 3 or 4 days later, hoping for an invitation to dinner or some other cool, fun activity. I would only be slightly disappointed to receive an invite out to "the bar." And, I would have gone. After meeting at the guy's house or apartment to "pre-drink" and play beer pong, we would have made it to the bar (with a bunch of his rowdy friends) and then I would have the nerve to be disappointed when this guy doesn't turn out to be the intellectual, funny, sophisticated man I had expected.
Luckily, I've wizened up a bit.
So fellas, if you come across a lady that you find attractive and interesting, just call her and ask her out on a date - a real one. Show her that you're willing to think outside the box and put some effort into getting to know her. Meeting up at your local college watering hole, buying her cheap beer or rail drinks that are on special and then taking her to your bedroom in your shared house to hook up with her no longer works. Calling or texting her to hang out at your place to watch a movie is also lame for a "first date." We're not in college anymore, kids - its a whole new ballgame.
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You sound like you haven't been on a good date in a while.
And just in case you don't know, some guys do that because it still works. Have you have seen the contingent of girls dressing like tramps dying to be taken home by anyone who is remotely athletic and has job? So don't lay all the blame on the guys. It's a bit unrealistic to expect guys to put in more work than they have to, especially when they know they don't want anything serious.
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